Oli helping me to unwrap it!
Thank You Snaffles Mummy!!
Through out my stay at the from the moment Oli was born until the next day when we left to come home I had different midwifes see to me, Some were extremely helpful and tried there to best to help me to express milk and some were rather negative towards me. They made me feel like I was doing something wrong, which I wasn’t.
I will always remember the one midwife who was blunt and nasty on the night that Oli was born. I’m not a big fan of hospitals and hate being left alone and especially over night stays. So the fact that I had to stay in hospital and was still in shock about giving birth – I was in hysterics. The man was told to he had to leave as visiting times were over, I hated this! I didn’t want him to leave me , He was what was keeping me together. I screamed and cried and then insisted that if he left I did too. I explained I wanted to go home but the midwife was adamant that I couldn’t leave until I established feeding. This is where she digged in at me about breastfeeding and how my child would starve. She said I couldn’t leave until I decided what I wanted to do.
She was giving me a on the spot decision – I had to choose if I wanted to breastfeed or bottle feed. Well of course I wanted to breastfeed but I just couldn’t. Instead of giving me such a hard time she should of seen how scared I was and how upset I was at not being able to breastfeed, It was at this point I started to feel guilty about it. I did stay after the mr calmed me down and explained staying there for the night was what best for our son. Maybe the midwife should of took this approach instead of guilting me into staying.
I was sent home from hospital with a few jars of apatamil as it was Sunday and had no way of getting any milk in, we didn’t buy any in advance as we thought I would be breastfeeding. I was told just to keep trying and that my local midwife would be visiting the next day so I would receive more help from her.
So these bottles of milk were ready made. I wasn’t told what to do when these ran out. I knew I had to buy the milk in the shops. But what then I had no idea that sterilised water was needed, I wasn’t even sure how to use the steriliser! I didn’t know how much milk Oli needed. I had to find out how to do it all by reading the milk box. Is that the way I should of learnt? Health People are getting way too involved with Breast feeding to see that they are people who bottle feed out of choice or that they have to as they cant breastfeed. There is inadequate information and support for mothers who decide or have to bottle feed.
I did try for a week after I came home from the hospital to breastfeed him, The midwife came round ever day to help me. We tried absolutely everything but still nothing. Oli just wasn’t going to have any of it. I was so emotional about it all and yes extremely guilty that I couldn’t give Oli this goodness. I do still feel bad about it to this day. But why should I? It wasn’t my fault my child didn’t want my milk. But everywhere I turn there is something about it.
When looking on websites about bottle feeding, I came across one article which had one comment on the subject.
Anonymous | 14-Jul-2009 10:30 pmPerhaps the “rights” of babies not breastfed by their mothers should be considered. Artificial feeding is what it says – cows milk is for baby cows, not baby humans. Perhaps, to be really controversial, the only way to access formula and the correct way of using it is by way of medical reasons only – not choice – after all if the babies had a choice, they would choose breast rather than formula. Too right that the mothers artificially feeding feel guilty – so they should – shame on them for increasing the liklihood of their baby becoming ill and adding to the NHS burden of care!
I know at all cost breastfeeding should be promoted but what about the needs of bottle feeding mothers? When my next baby comes along, I will again try to breastfeed but if that fails then I will bottle feed. But at least this time I’ll know how to sterilise, prepare & make a bottle.
Who’s Rex I hear you ask?
Well any regular reader would of heard me mention him before and maybe seen a photo or two..
Well Rex is our pet… Can you guess what kind of pet he is?
He’s not a dog, not a cat and he’s not even a goldfish.. We don’t even know if he’s a he or she!
It’s one of the easiest pets to look after.. We hardly ever have to clean it out, only needs a squirt of water now and again and it lives on lettuce and cucumber!
Rex lives in a tank but also lives in a shell and no he’s not a tortoise.
When we first got Rex he was tiny, smaller then a normal garden snail. But now he’s huge! Give it another couple of years and he could grow to be as big as our hands!
The Daily Mail reported about how the nursery rhyme Humpty Dumpty was given a happy ending by ‘politically correct’ BBC. The Cbeebies show – Something special (The one with that rather annoying Mr Tumble!) has changed the words to the rhyme to make a happier ending. Instead of ‘Put Humpty together again’ the new lyrics claimed all the King’s horses and all the King’s men ‘Made Humpty Happy again’
It makes me angry how things are changing in fears of getting complaints & being sued. And I’m only 21, what’s the world going to be like when I’m 41? In 20 years time! Are my Grandchildren going to be hearing completely different versions of this Rhyme all together .. Will Humpty no longer be called Humpty for fear of offending?? I wonder what will next have to be corrected?!
It didn’t do any harm to me and I’ve known the rhyme & the lyrics to it since I was a little girl. Has it had any harmful effects? No! Well I defiantly wont be singing this new version to the boy, he will be taught the traditional one with which I grew up with.
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the King’s horses,
And all the King’s men,
Couldn’t put Humpty together again!
We got sent a safari boy from the safari adventures range over at TOLO. I was going to let my Godson and his brother review it but seeing as they’ve come down with Chicken pox I doubt I will get the chance to see them anytime soon! So I introduced it to the boy this morning, as soon as I took it out of the box his face lit up, he took an interest in something I was holding other than a mobile or the laptop.
The first thing he managed to do was to make it squeak. There’s a little button which is big enough for Oli size hands which he easily pushed. This made him giggle; he likes noisy toys (much to my displeasure!) He then discovered the moveable arms, legs and hat. He went a bit wild twisting and turning. I also think that was down to the clicking noise it made.
He played it with his other toys which are a new thing for him; he’s starting to interact with his toys. And then of course like any other teething kid his age, he stuck it in his mouth for a good nibble & dribble! The recommended age on the box is 1-5 years, but I would say it’s ok from 6 month’s onwards with adult supervision!
This is one toy that definitely wouldn’t be a waste to buy at this age; I can see Oli playing and continuing to dribble over this for much longer yet. It’s perfect if they are on that transition from those baby toys into the world of big toys!
The T-shirt does all the talking…
Took some pics as I went along…
Ingredients at the ready.. This time I was prepared and had eggs.. No last minute run to the shops for them as I did last time!
In the Oven…
I struggled with the icing.. Because I destroyed it last time by adding too much water, I added it drop by drop!!
Cakes all iced! 🙂
All decorated with sprinkles & chocolate drops…
I’m rather pleased with how well my 2nd attempt went!! Bring on round 3! 😀